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June 10, 2017
Rev Ahmondra

Trust and Believe in Yourself

Trust and Believe in Yourself

So often we look around us and wonder why we aren’t as good as others. We see that they are smarter, more successful, have more money, more friends and seem to be happier than us. From these observations we draw the conclusion that they are just better than us. Our conclusions often create turmoil within us and make us feel even more unworthy.

 

With these feelings of unworthiness we begin to fall into sadness or depression. And these feelings create trouble for us in our world with our family with our friends at work and in the community. We question why we are so unlucky, why we can’t catch a break. Our life looks bleak and we don’t see a way to change things. We just don’t have what it takes to move forward.

 

When we descend into a space of unworthiness and despair everything looks and feels dark and disappointing. Nothing seems to go right in our world and we don’t know how to pull ourselves up and out of this darkness. Everyone is better than us and this is just our truth. We accept it without question because this is the conclusion we have come to.

 

But what if this was not true at all. Suppose we stopped looking at others and making comparisons between them and us. Suppose we started to really look at ourself. No we may not have as much money as someone else and yes they may have a bigger car, better clothes, and seem to be happier than us, but what do we have that they don’t?

 

We have our very own uniqueness. There is no one in this world like us. Our qualities are unique to us and it is up to us to identify those qualities and be proud of them. Many times we make the mistake of not recognizing who we are and what we have to offer because we are so busy comparing ourselves with others.

But the really funny thing is that those we are comparing ourselves with are comparing themselves with some else they believe is better than they are. They are not as happy as we believe they are nor are they as good as we think they are. This is just our perception.

 

If we took all the energy we use to tear ourselves down and put it into trusting and believing in who we are we will find that we are stronger, happier and feel more content with life.

 

It doesn’t take that much to believe in yourself when you stop and take a close look at those qualities you posses that make you, you. What are your strengths? Are you a good listener? Someone who is always ready to help others? Maybe you’re a terrific team player and a loyal friend. It is time to focus on those things that make you uniquely you.

 

The one guarantee in life is that there is no one else on this planet like you. So today begin to trust in your goodness, believe in your worthiness and share your wonderful uniqueness with the world. It is waiting to embrace you.

 

Sit down in a quiet place and make a list of all the qualities that are unique to you. Keep that list close to you and read it often. One day you will look up and there will be no comparison with others because you will trust and believe in YOU.

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June 10, 2017
Rev Ahmondra

When in doubt have F.A.I.T.H.

When in doubt have F.A.I.T.H.     (Find Answers in the Heart)

 

Sometimes in life things happen and we just don’t have any answers. We struggle and struggle to make sense out of something that seems totally senseless to us. It is during these times that we have to be very mindful about where we go for answers.

 

Many times we go to others and find that they are no help at all. They either tell us just to be strong with really no answers for our situations. Or sometimes they even blame us for the condition that we are struggling with causing us to feel guilty. We walk away feeling worst than when we went to them.

 

Now, that is not to say that we should not go to others for help and support. But sometimes we need to find our own answers by exercising F.A.I.T.H. This word is usually used in a religious context but I am using it in a different context. I am using the word to mean, Find Answers In The Heart, F.A.I.T.H.

 

I believe that everyone has an inner guidance that will guide them in the right direction if they only learned to listen. How many times did you listen to the advice of someone else because you thought they knew better than you, only to discover that you should have followed your own heart, in the first place?

 

When we follow our heart by finding the answers we are looking for within we pull on our own individual knowingness. That special understanding we can only find in the deepest part of us, our heart.

 

As small children we have to depend on the knowledge and advice of others because we are still growing and developing our individual characters. But after we reach adult hood many times we still listen to others because we don’t trust that we have what it takes to make the hard decisions or get the answers that we need to difficult situations. We lack Faith in ourselves.

 

If we start to cultivate a connection to our heart wisdom on small things, when the big things come along we will be better equipped to address them. We have more wisdom than we realize. And for us to really live a life that is beneficial to our true self, we need to begin to trust and listen to our inner most promptings.

 

I invite you to engage in a little experiment with your self to see how capable you are of finding your own answers. For the next month when you don’t know the answer to something before you ask someone else, first look within (into your heart) and see what answer you have. Then go ahead and ask someone for advice.

 

After you have your own answer and the advice of someone else make a decision about which answer you will go with. Pay close attention to the outcomes to see if your answers were just as good or better than the ones you received from others.

 

After a while you will develop a stronger F.A.I.T.H. in your ability to find answers to your challenges. You will always allow others to support and help you but you won’t depend entirely on others because you will have Faith in yourself.

 

The great thing with developing F.A.I.T.H. in yourself is that others will begin to come to you for advice and answers because they will see how successful you have become in moving through life. You will then be able to share with them how to find answers in their hearts and have F.A.I.T.H. in themselves. The best world is one in which everyone believes in themselves first and in others second.

 

 

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June 9, 2017
Rev Ahmondra

Stop negative Self-Talk

Who is that talking in my Head?

Stop letting negative self-talk hold you back.

 

Do you often feel down, depressed, sad or frustrated with yourself for no reason? Or is it hard get motivated or to stay motivated? How often do you wake up and the first thing that crosses your mind is how miserable you are and it’s your entire fault? Maybe you wake up feeling good but then in a very short while you feel terrible and you can’t figure out why? Is your constant thinking making you feel exhausted?

 

You may not realize it but it’s possible that the negative self-talk running through your mind is controlling the way you feel. Everyone on the planet has discussions going on in their heads all the time, that is just human nature. It’s what we are saying to ourselves that is the most important thing.

 

We talk to ourselves about everything all the time. We make comments to ourselves about what we hear, what we see and about ourselves. We can spend our entire day talking to ourselves about something that happened to us and this conversation is going on while we are interacting with others.

 

Having vigorous conversations with ourselves is not a bad thing unless we are having negative conversations about ourselves to ourselves. When we engage in negative self-talk (talking bad about what we do, how we look, what we say, etc.) on a constant basis we erode our self-worth and damage our self-esteem. We rob ourselves of vital life energy and joy.

 

Living a joyous and happy existence doesn’t just come from what is occurring around us in our lives. It comes from what is happening within us also. The very foundation of our lives is built on what is going on in our minds. Many times we say things to ourselves that if someone else said them to us they would be in BIG TROUBLE!!

 

So why do we engage in such negative self-talk, if it has such a damaging effect on us? There are many reasons. Maybe we are playing old tapes from the past where someone kept telling us negative things about ourselves until we believed them. It’s possible that we picked up negative talk about who we are from the larger culture around us. It’s also possible that we created the negative self-talk when we compare our life to the life of others.

 

It really isn’t important why or where the negative self-talk originated, what’s important is how can we turn down the volume on it so that one day it is so low we can hardly hear it. As we stop listening to and believing the negative self-talk dialogue in our minds our energy will increase and we will feel less negative about ourselves.

 

The big question is how do we turn the volume down on our negative self-talk so we can stop letting it control us? There are two things that you can do right now today.

 

  1. Recognize that you have negative self-talk. Most of us don’t even know that we are having negative conversations with ourselves and that these conversations are controlling our lives. Start listening to what you are saying to yourself.

 

  1. Begin to catch yourself when you have a negative thought about yourself. Make a game out of it. For one hour see how many times you can catch yourself saying something negative to yourself about yourself. It will shock you!! As you begin to identify your negative self-talk you will also begin to stop some of it because you will not like what your hearing.

 

In order to change your negative self-talk into positive self- talk you have to be aware of what you are saying. When you get good about catching yourself talking crazy to yourself, you can begin to replace those negative thoughts with positive ones. Start really paying attention to the thoughts that run through your head. They are your thoughts and YOU CAN CONTROL THEM.

 

The most important thing to remember is that just because you have a thought doesn’t mean it is TRUE! You have the power to make yourself feel good about you. No matter what negativity you hear from others or what negativity is running through your mind you have the power to change it. So make up your mind to reclaim your mind and get control of your negative self-talk, today. You will feel so much better tomorrow.

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June 9, 2017
Rev Ahmondra

Hit the Reset Button

Create Happiness in 2017

“Hit the Reset button”

WOW! 2017 has arrived and has taken off with a BANG! This New Year presents us with an amazing opportunity. We have the chance to begin afresh. No matter what occurred in 2016, in 2017 we can have something different, if that is what we desire.

 

Maybe your circumstances have not changed and it’s not possible for you to do anything about them, but you can change your attitude and thoughts about your circumstances. The one thing you have total control over are your thoughts. Only you decide how you choose to think about something.

 

So, if you want to experience something different in 2017, then I invite you to hit the reset button in your life by changing your thinking. It is your thoughts that determine the kind of life you live. Hitting the reset button simply means that you make a conscious decision to start looking at your life from a different perspective.

 

Every year many of us make New Year resolutions to better our life in some way. We want to lose weight, get a new job, begin or end a relationship, or something relevant to our happiness. But for some reason that commitment to change only lasts a very short time and we find ourselves reverting back into old patterns of behavior. Our New Year resolutions fall by the wayside and we feel like failures once again.

 

What if, instead of making a resolution to change your circumstances with a change in behavior, you made the decision to change your attitude/thinking about your circumstances?

 

What if, instead of going on a diet because you think you’re fat and need to lose weight, you shifted to thinking you have a wonderful body that serves you well and you need to learn how to take better care of it?

 

What if, instead of complaining about your job, you focus on the good things present in your job while you look for better employment opportunities?

 

What if, instead of signing up for online dating because you feel lonely and unloved and you want someone to fill that void for you, you sign up with the attitude that you have a wonderful personality and you want to share it with a like-minded person?

 

You might not believe that a simple shift in your attitude/thinking can radically change your life but it can. You don’t need to have more money, more friends, or more resources, to completely change your life. You only need the willingness to change how you think and feel about your life.

 

If you are ready to hit the reset button and begin having new and wonderful things appear in your life, I have a few suggestions for you:

  1. Make a list of all the areas in your life that you want to see change. (My physical body, my living conditions, etc.)
  2. Using that list, create another list of how you think and feel about those areas of your life. Be specific. (I feel ugly when I look at my body. I am uncomfortable with where I live.)

 

  1. Make a third list and write down all the things you have to be grateful for in those areas of your life. (I am healthy. I have housing.)

 

  1. Hit the Reset button – Create a list that reflects a new attitude about your circumstances. (I love my body; it serves me well. I appreciate my humble living conditions; they allow me to feel safe.)

 

It doesn’t take much to create an atmosphere of happiness around you in your life. You only need the willingness. Make the decision today and start creating the life you want and desire in 2017. Your life is in your hands. You have all the power. Whatever you want to change, just hit the reset button on your attitude/thinking and begin creating a life filled with joy, happiness and serenity.

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June 9, 2017
Rev Ahmondra

Living in Appreciation of Life’s Miracles

Each and every day we wake up and go to sleep and hardly ever pay much attention to the miracles that are happening around us.

We live in a Universe that is in constant action. Nothing is ever stagnant. We can see it when we look around our environment. We can see the miracles that happen in nature when the change of the seasons gives birth to new plants and refreshes the animals.

Just think this planet is spinning at 1,039 miles per hour and making a full rotation every 24 hours. And we don’t even feel it! What a miracle.

When we go to sleep at night we don’t wonder if the sun is going to rise in the morning or when we get out of bed we aren’t concerned if gravity will hold us down. These things we just take for granted.
There are also hidden miracles occurring inside of us, ones we don’t know about. Did you know the human body has 37.2 trillion cells and each one is in action doing what it is designed to do?

The heart beats, the lungs breath, the blood circulates. We don’t have to tell them when or how to do their work they just do it. Just think if you had to remember to tell your heart to beat or your lungs to expand and contract, the concentration that would take.
Life is teaming with miracles and when we can stop long enough to acknowledge them we will experience gratitude and that feeling of gratitude can help us handle what ever challenge we may be experiencing. We begin to appreciate all of our life, because we are alive.

We all have difficulties we will face in life. Events will happen that are out of our control. Situations may befall us that make us feel helpless, worthless or useless. But one thing we do have control over and that is how we view our life.

We have choice. We can see the glass as half empty or half full. It is all in our perception. When we stay awake to life’s miracles we live in a constant state of thankfulness and gratitude.

Gratitude for the miracles happening around us and within us will give us that positive perspective we need to move through difficulties. We will know and understand that everything changes and that what ever is happening today will be a little different tomorrow. When we appreciate the little things in life we cultivate happiness and joy.

Make a commitment to look for the miracles that are happening around you and when you see them be grateful for them. This will develop an attitude of Gratitude. And that attitude will help you live a life filled with awe and wonder, and give you the courage and strength to handle any change that may come along.

“Life is like dancing. If we have a big floor, many people will dance. Some will get angry when the rhythm changes. But life is changing all the time. “

Don Miguel Ruiz

that are happening around us.

We live in a Universe that is in constant action. Nothing is ever stagnant. We can see it when we look around our environment. We can see the miracles that happen in nature when the change of the seasons gives birth to new plants and refreshes the animals.

Just think this planet is spinning at 1,039 miles per hour and making a full rotation every 24 hours. And we don’t even feel it! What a miracle.

When we go to sleep at night we don’t wonder if the sun is going to rise in the morning or when we get out of bed we aren’t concerned if gravity will hold us down. These things we just take for granted.

There are also hidden miracles occurring inside of us, ones we don’t know about. Did you know the human body has 37.2 trillion cells and each one is in action doing what it is designed to do?

The heart beats, the lungs breath, the blood circulates. We don’t have to tell them when or how to do their work they just do it. Just think if you had to remember to tell your heart to beat or your lungs to expand and contract, the concentration that would take.

Life is teaming with miracles and when we can stop long enough to acknowledge them we will experience gratitude and that feeling of gratitude can help us handle what ever challenge we may be experiencing. We begin to appreciate all of our life, because we are alive.

We all have difficulties we will face in life. Events will happen that are out of our control. Situations may befall us that make us feel helpless, worthless or useless. But one thing we do have control over and that is how we view our life.

We have choice. We can see the glass as half empty or half full. It is all in our perception. When we stay awake to life’s miracles we live in a constant state of thankfulness and gratitude.

Gratitude for the miracles happening around us and within us will give us that positive perspective we need to move through difficulties. We will know and understand that everything changes and that what ever is happening today will be a little different tomorrow. When we appreciate the little things in life we cultivate happiness and joy.

Make a commitment to look for the miracles that are happening around you and when you see them be grateful for them. This will develop an attitude of Gratitude. And that attitude will help you live a life filled with awe and wonder, and give you the courage and strength to handle any change that may come along.

“Life is like dancing. If we have a big floor, many people will dance. Some will get angry when the rhythm changes. But life is changing all the time. “

Don Miguel Ruiz

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February 14, 2017
Rev Ahmondra

You deserve to be Loved

“Be Your Own Valentine”

February is the month designated for Love. Much focus is placed on showing love and affection to that special person in your life. We buy flowers and give candy and cards to express our deepest feelings. But how do you treat yourself?

 

What if as you gave candies and cards to your most favorite people you included yourself in that equation? So often we do for others and we leave ourselves completely out. We fail to take the time to tend to our health the way we should. But if our significant other becomes sick we are right there to help them get better.

 

We fail to take the time out to comfort ourselves when we feel hurt, lost or down but let a friend have a low moment and we are right there to encourage them and help them through a challenging time. What about you?

 

We spend countless hours tearing ourselves down in our minds. Criticizing our attempts to do new things and comparing our successes to others successes. We don’t spend time praising our accomplishments or being proud of those times when we are courageous. We fail to recognize our uniqueness and the fact that there is no one else on the planet like us. We are special in our own right!

 

Why is that? I don’t have an answer for your particular situation. But I do have a suggestion on how you can become more kind and loving to yourself. You can begin this month of Love by doing one simple act of kindness for yourself everyday. And the really cool thing is that no one has to know that you are doing it.

 

This exercise in self-love is very easy, simple and fun. All it takes is for you to really find out how to love yourself. What makes you smile and feel really good? Find that one thing that lights up your day and do it. If you don’t have the money to do something like take a trip to Europe then do the next best thing. Take your self to a restaurant that serves food from a country you would like to visit.

Do something kind for yourself it could be something as simple as telling yourself that you are a good person and that you deserve to be happy and prosperous. Don’t allow anyone to keep you from acknowledging yourself. Maybe you just need to spend time alone to think or reflect. Take a long walk all by your self.

 

During this month of Love don’t waste any precious time feeling sad or disappointed that someone hasn’t picked you to be his or her Valentine. Do the picking yourself and make you, your own Valentine.

 

Life is precious and you should cherish it. Begin today to acknowledge that you are special and deserve all the Love and support you can receive and then begin giving it to yourself. What you will notice is that when you begin to love you, others will begin to love you also. That’s just the way it works.

 

So this wonderful month of February shower yourself with love, you deserve it.

 

 

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January 12, 2017
Rev Ahmondra

Create Happiness in 2017

“Hit the Reset button”

WOW! 2017 has arrived and has taken off with a BANG! This New Year presents us with an amazing opportunity. We have the chance to begin afresh. No matter what occurred in 2016, in 2017 we can have something different, if that is what we desire.

Maybe your circumstances have not changed and it’s not possible for you to do anything about them, but you can change your attitude and thoughts about your circumstances. The one thing you have total control over are your thoughts. Only you decide how you choose to think about something.

So, if you want to experience something different in 2017, then I invite you to hit the reset button in your life by changing your thinking. It is your thoughts that determine the kind of life you live. Hitting the reset button simply means that you make a conscious decision to start looking at your life from a different perspective.

Every year many of us make New Year resolutions to better our life in some way. We want to lose weight, get a new job, begin or end a relationship, or something relevant to our happiness. But for some reason that commitment to change only lasts a very short time and we find ourselves reverting back into old patterns of behavior. Our New Year resolutions fall by the wayside and we feel like failures once again.

What if, instead of making a resolution to change your circumstances with a change in behavior, you made the decision to change your attitude/thinking about your circumstances?

What if, instead of going on a diet because you think you’re fat and need to lose weight, you shifted to thinking you have a wonderful body that serves you well and you need to learn how to take better care of it?

What if, instead of complaining about your job, you focus on the good things present in your job while you look for better employment opportunities?

What if, instead of signing up for online dating because you feel lonely and unloved and you want someone to fill that void for you, you sign up with the attitude that you have a wonderful personality and you want to share it with a like-minded person?

You might not believe that a simple shift in your attitude/thinking can radically change your life but it can. You don’t need to have more money, more friends, or more resources, to completely change your life. You only need the willingness to change how you think and feel about your life.

If you are ready to hit the reset button and begin having new and wonderful things appear in your life, I have a few suggestions for you:
1. Make a list of all the areas in your life that you want to see change. (My physical body, my living conditions, etc.)
2. Using that list, create another list of how you think and feel about those areas of your life. Be specific. (I feel ugly when I look at my body. I am uncomfortable with where I live.)

3. Make a third list and write down all the things you have to be grateful for in those areas of your life. (I am healthy. I have housing.)

4. Hit the Reset button – Create a list that reflects a new attitude about your circumstances. (I love my body; it serves me well. I appreciate my humble living conditions; they allow me to feel safe.)

It doesn’t take much to create an atmosphere of happiness around you in your life. You only need the willingness. Make the decision today and start creating the life you want and desire in 2017. Your life is in your hands. You have all the power. Whatever you want to change, just hit the reset button on your attitude/thinking and begin creating a life filled with joy, happiness and serenity.

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April 25, 2015
Rev Ahmondra

blessing in Disguise

A Blessing in Disguise

Yesterday I had the privilege of conducting a healing circle for the women at the Naval Consolidated Brigg in San Diego. The circle was intended to provide an opportunity for them to let go of old thought patterns and create new ones for 2015.

Half way through the session I realized that even though their physical freedom was gone they had developed an awareness and insight into their lives, which gave them mental freedom.

Because of their incarceration they had come face to face with a harsh reality, they had created their life. When they got clear on their thinking patterns, took full responsibility for their actions, and accepted the consequences attached to those actions, they developed the emotional freedom and personal strength to create a new future devoid of old patterns. What had appeared as a curse turned out to be a blessing in disguise.

I know that many of us are anxiously waiting for 2014 to time out because it was such a difficult year (including me) but after working with the women in the brig my attitude has changed. I see 2014 in a totally different light. It was a Banner Year for Blessings!!

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April 25, 2015
Rev Ahmondra

Live a Spiritual Life

Always Expect Miracles

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November 3, 2014
Rev Ahmondra

Love me today not tomorrow

flowers bouquet

“Give me my Flowers while I am here don’t wait until I am gone”

Yesterday I received the very sad news that my dear friend and mentor Rev. Jane Claypool had made her transition. The news hit me hard because it was sudden and unexpected. On Thursday she crossed my mind and I called to stop by for a quick visit. She had an upset stomach and suggested that I call back in a couple of days. In a couple of days my beloved friend was gone.

I had no idea that would be the last time I spoke to her. And although I was saddened by the news I felt good because I had listen to my first mind and called her. I had done what the old folks always said to do, “give them flowers when they are here, don’t wait until they are gone”.

I started that practice a year ago. Whenever someone crossed my mind, I would stop what I was doing and reach out to them. I would not put it off for another time and place. I would give them their flowers while they were still here. I had let Rev Jane know that she was important to me and that I wanted to spend time with her, she knew I loved her because I told her so.

How many times do we miss the opportunity to call or visit with a friend/loved one because we are busy? We have every intention to call when they cross our mind but we put it off, thinking we will get back to it later and later never comes. We fail to give flowers when we can.

Had I put off calling her I would have missed the opportunity to hear her voice one last time, missed telling her I loved her one last time and missed hearing her tell me she loved me one last time. Dr. Jane, I am so glad I gave you, your flowers while you were still with us! Rest in Peace my friend you will be missed so much.

Have you given out flowers to someone you love today? Please don’t put it off. You never know if they will be around to receive them tomorrow.

 

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